Are you tired of feeling stuck or lost and want to find you again?
Over the years, I have worked with many women who have felt stuck or lost mentally, emotionally and physically. With my support and guidance through a bespoke Wellbeing Life Coaching programme, they have learnt how to connect with and rebalance their head, heart and body, and live a healthier, happier life.
Your step-by-step journey to a healthier and happier life starts with:
Regaining a strong sense of self: Aligning yourself with the life you want to live.
One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else. When you are in this situation, it can be hard to find your voice among so many other dominant ideas and opinions. Maybe you are tired of wishing you had the strength to say no, or you are feeling overwhelmed by living a life other people expect you to live. At this point, you may wonder: does a strong sense of self really make a difference? It absolutely does! Lacking a clearly defined sense of self will make it harder to know exactly what you want and may result in you drifting through life.
Developing clarity and insight: Understanding what it is you really want from your future.
Once you have developed a strong sense of self, it becomes a lot easier to gain insight into what is really important to you. However, before you start to think about where you want to go in life, it’s essential that you acknowledge where you are right now – and then you can start to unravel what it is you want for your future. It’s also crucial to be clear about what has prevented you from achieving your dreams and goals in the past. Unconscious thought patterns and beliefs can often be the reasons why you may be stuck in a place of uncertainty and overwhelm.
Designing a clear plan: Creating a vision for your future that aligns with your values, strengths and skills.
Planning your life is equivalent to having a roadmap that helps you to reach your desired destination. It would be foolish to get in your car and drive around aimlessly, hoping to eventually reach your destination. Despite this, so many people don’t plan their lives and end up lost or stuck where they are. When you take the time to plan your life, you are taking the necessary steps to not only identify and reach your desired goal, but also to do so in the most efficient manner. Rather than relying on pure chance, a life plan details the exact route to take.
Taking action steps: Realising that small steps lead to big changes.
‘The one primary motivator that leads us to persevere is baby steps,’ says John Brubaker on Entrepreneur. That’s because when we look at the big picture, we can get overwhelmed with all of the steps involved in achieving a goal. Instead, breaking down the ‘big picture’ goal into systematic, manageable baby steps will help you to achieve that goal you’ve been seeking in a positive and more meaningful way.
Implementing positive changes: Feeling comfortable with making long-lasting changes.
It’s a natural human trait to resist change, but that doesn’t have to be the case – far from it. Change gives you the opportunity to have new experiences that will open up doors to a life you have been dreaming of. However, it may mean facing your fears, whether it’s the fear that you can’t really change, or that you will never have the confidence to say or do it, or the fear that you set the wrong goals or worry constantly about what other people think. By feeling the fear and understanding how it impacts on you, you can make a decision to do something about it.
Having a solution-focused mindset: Developing the ability to overcome obstacles and challenges in life.
Knowing your obstacles and challenges is another great way to know yourself. When you are faced with difficult situations in life, see them as opportunities for you to decide who you are and see what you’re capable of. How you choose to think, feel and behave are all expressions of who you want to be. When you observe yourself without judgement or impulsivity, you’re making a decision about who you are – you’re getting to know you. Remember, situations in life – even negative ones – can always serve as opportunities.
Establishing new habits: Having new healthy habits that serve you well.
Making changes to the way you think, feel and behave can take a lot of energy because it requires you to establish new habits. This ability to establish new habits requires constant self-reflection, so you can scrutinise your behaviour. You will need to do this until it becomes a new habit by consciously changing your behaviour, so you can achieve your desirable goals.
Having faith in yourself: Believing in your abilities by letting go of what is holding you back.
This requires you to let go of any limiting beliefs and replace them with new thoughts and beliefs, but be patient with yourself, because this can take time and intentional focus. To achieve this, start with gratitude. Once you start focusing on the good things in life, you will start to trust in your ability to achieve all your dreams. Gratitude also gives you the energy you need to see your changes through.
Taking responsibility: Holding yourself accountable for your life choices.
Accountability means that you start to take responsibility for your choices and actions, and to continue to progress, you may choose to report and share with another person. Choice and taking action lie at the heart of a person who wants to change and grow. Exercising personal accountability enables your accountability partner (whoever you choose that person to be) to influence you to even greater success.
Developing and growing as a person: Harnessing the desire to improve and the willingness to make changes.
For you to grow as a person, you will need to get out of your comfort zone and sometimes do things that are uncomfortable but for your own good. An open mind and the desire to learn and grow are also important. Personal growth is an ongoing process that starts from an early age, but is mostly shaped by parents, teachers and the environment. However, to make the most of it, you need to become aware of the process, know what it is and take the right steps to grow and improve yourself.
Staying motivated to keep on going: Working daily to focus on your goals.
Successful personal growth requires motivation. It’s important to stay motivated so you can pursue your goals and vision in the long term. Numerous studies have shown that taking time every day to journal positive events, thoughts and emotions boosts your mood, which means you are more likely to achieve your goals. As part of the Wellbeing Life Coaching programme, I provide a journal with daily exercises and activities based on the tools and techniques used in CBT and positive psychology’s model of wellbeing.
If you are tired of feeling stuck, this bespoke Wellbeing Life Coaching Programme may be for you. But be prepared – it requires commitment and a lot of peeling back the layers to get to the true authentic you!