This months guest blog is from the very lovely Maria Newman who is the Founder of Mummy on a Break. Maria helps busy working mums, with young children, who are fed up with managing the chaos of life to feel amazing and love life by finding their purpose and confidence through 1:1 coaching.
Who’s taking care of you?
I’d like to ask you a simple question. Who’s the most important person in your life? I imagine you listed your partner, children and parents. Did you include yourself in the list? Probably not.
And why is that? It’s definitely not because you don’t regard yourself as important!
In this chaotic world, it is even more important that we acknowledge ourselves as individuals and ensure we are taking action to take care of ourselves in the same way we take care of others.
One of the things I regularly explain to my clients is, in life we need to do exactly what the air stewards on planes are telling us. That is to put on our own oxygen mask before attempting to help anyone else. The simple fact being, if you can’t breathe then how are you going to be able to help anyone else effectively.
How you are both physically and mentally not only impacts you but also those around you.
Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to be extravagant or complicated. It’s also not another thing to add to your to-do list. Taking care of yourself, with practice, becomes a positive habit that you do automatically.
However, if this is something that is lacking in your life right now here are my top 5 tips.
Start the day right
No matter how I feel when I first open my eyes in the morning, I want to have the best day I can, even if my children have bestowed upon me a night of interrupted sleep.
It’s about nudging yourself physically and mentally so that waking up is not a shock to the system but getting yourself in the right frame of mind to face the day.
For me, this means going through my wake up routine every morning. It takes no more than 10 minutes and can be done from the comfort of my bed, mainly.
I go through a process of waking up the different parts of my body by taking in proper deep breaths, stretching, saying affirmations and finally visualising the day.
Unwind from the day’s trauma
Similarly, I have a wind down routine. This is because not only do we need to send a signal to our bodies that we are ready for bed but it also allows me to release the stresses of the day. All of which means I have a better night’s sleep.
For me, I like to write in my journal to minimise the amount of processing that my brain might want to do whilst I’m asleep. This way I’m less likely to wake up in the middle of the night by my thoughts.
I also try and go to bed at the same time every night so that my body knows naturally when sleep time is.
And finally, I try not to watch anything too animated close to bedtime, again to minimise the impact on my thoughts during the night. My only downfall is when we decide to watch a blockbuster of a film!
Time for yourself
Having some time to yourself is so important, even if it’s just 5 minutes a day, to do something just for you. To do something that makes you smile. To do something that benefits you.
For me, it’s exercise, whether it’s going for a run or kickboxing. I know this is more than 5 minutes. It’s my time and allows me to focus on the here and now rather than my to-do list.
Explore the outdoors
I don’t need to tell you that getting outdoors has many benefits. But I’ll just remind you. It can relieve stress, it helps to calm the mind and it boosts your energy. It’s about getting you moving instead of being sat indoors/ Plus being in nature is good for the soul.
So get moving, get outdoors and go hug a tree.
Eat right and drink plenty of water
It’s simple, we need to eat a varied diet so that we get all the nutrients our body needs. Experts advise that you eat the rainbow. Make sure that what you put on your plate is colourful, because it’s just as important for your food to look good as well as taste good.
We also need to ensure our body constantly hydrated, after all we are mainly water. This doesn’t just mean we have to drink gallons of water. It’s a balance between drinking water and eating food with high water content.
So you see, looking after yourself doesn’t have to be difficult. It’s just about making minor adjustments that not only benefit you but also your family and those around you.
Who’s the most important person in your life?
You might also like to read ‘‘Who’s really holding you back?’
Why not check out my YouTube channel for ‘5 tips to help you with self care’ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMCE-1ovtOc
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Maria Newman is the Founder of Mummy on a Break
Helping busy working mums, with young children, who are fed up with managing the chaos of life to feel amazing and love life by finding their purpose and confidence through 1:1 coaching.