Obstacles in your life can stop you achieving your goals and result in you becoming stuck. Instead, see them as an invitation to help you clarify how you can live a remarkable life. Be unrelenting in your commitment – do not give up! Remember, many obstacles are figments of your imagination, so don’t allow setbacks to get you down. Permit them to enrich your mental experience by building resilience, determination and strength. Every time you tackle a problem, you overcome a mental hurdle. That’s when old thinking departs and new thinking arrives. That’s when you will see obstacles fade away.
Love this picture of my dad and his two brothers. No obstacle was too big for them!
What is holding you back from living a remarkable life?
Is it memories of past experiences that have wounded or undermined your sense of self?
Is it unresolved emotions that still remain in your body from those experiences?
Are your current disempowering beliefs the result of those early life experiences?
Is it dysfunctional habits and behaviours that you have developed to compensate for those difficult experiences, feelings and beliefs?
If you have said yes to any of these questions, then have a read of this month’s blog. It will give you some ideas on how to find your sense of self and overcome obstacles so you can live a remarkable life.
Obstacle number one
Disempowering beliefs and behaviours
Firstly, identify those disempowering beliefs and behaviours. Once you know what they are, you can start to create new, empowering beliefs. Once those old wounds are healed, they can become part of your gift to the world. For example, my menopause journey enabled me to overcome debilitating menopause symptoms. This led me to retrain as a Wellbeing Life Coach and I now support and guide other women through their menopause journey.
Obstacle number two
Lack of purpose in your life
Knowing what your purpose is can help you to be more successful, happier, healthier, more fulfilled and to live longer! If you apply that sense of purpose to your work, hobbies and family, you will enjoy them more and find life more meaningful. You can discover more by reading my blog on discovering your purpose in life.
Obstacle number three
Unaware of your strengths
Knowing your purpose isn’t enough – you need to combine your purpose with your strengths and skills. This combination is what makes you unique in the world. There is only one of you! Develop this combination of your purpose and your strengths and skills, and express it clearly. Make the most of what is unique about you.
Obstacle number four
No vision for your future
If you have a strong vision of how you want to be in your wise old age, then this vision can act as a guiding star for you. Once you have this vision in place, you can plan your life so that you can start to achieve it. Make it a positive vision of your ageing process. This is more likely to lead you to engage in health-sustaining behaviours, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Obstacle number five
No plan for your future
Rather than planning big changes but never putting them into action, plan small ones. Small changes can lead – slowly but surely – to big changes. Go dancing once and see how you like it. If you want to change career, find a way to test it by going on secondment, volunteering for a week or doing a short course. This means you may have to face your fears by stepping out of your comfort zone. If your comfort zone is holding you back, then aim to break out by doing something new and different.
Obstacle number six
Constantly searching for happiness
Once you have your vision and plan, enjoy the journey. People can make themselves desperately unhappy by trying to achieve what they think will make them happy. Just remember that your environment, genes and the culture you grew up in may mean that some things in life cannot be changed. Instead, see if you can let things be just the way they are and try living in the present moment.
Obstacle number seven
Not knowing what makes you happy
Alcohol, drugs, random sex and other activities cannot mask unhappiness. They are ways to avoid pain, rather than to heal. Instead, spend time in nature, engage in deep conversations with a friend and cuddles, or try your favourite sport, dancing, listening to music, meditation or mindfulness. Research shows that practices like these not only feel good at the time but have a lasting effect on your happiness and wellbeing.
Obstacle number eight
Developing bad habits
Good habits improve your life. Pick something that you would like to turn into a habit. Make the habit short and easy to do, and be realistic about how often you can do it. Make a weekly chart that you sign off when you fulfil the commitment and use a gold star or a smiley to reward yourself. Reinforce yourself every time you fulfil the commitment – say, ‘Well done, me.’ At the end of a week or a month, give yourself a bigger reward. Be curious and compassionate about failure. Learn from it and start again.
Love your remarkable life
It is vital you take consistent action despite your fears and doubts. Once you know what is holding you back, you can start to take action. Once you take action and overcome your obstacles, you can start to live a remarkable life.